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Powerful Change: Fake It Until You Become It!

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Powerful Change: Fake It Until You Become It!

Do you always accept circumstances as they appear to be?  When you resign yourself and take everything at face value, you leave many doors with better or different options shut. By opening your mind, investigating new ideas, finding new ways to tackle a challenge and visualizing a different perspective, you can make intentional changes. You can fake it until you become it!

Here are some thoughtful solutions for beginning a new journey of personal assessment and growth. Baby steps can create massive change.

Begin exploring personal and financial growth

· What are your strengths?
· Is your internal view of yourself realistic?
· Do your values align with your goals?
· Are there mental/ emotional barriers that need overcoming to be successful?
· What do you need to take the next step?

Examine your story and ask questions. Does this story (well worn and comfortable) still fit your life? If not, how do you take stock of the past and re-frame that internal vision of yourself?

Reflect on these questions below to determine where you are:

Who are you?
What are your values?
What are you passions?
What is your purpose?

Have you ever browsed through old photos and marveled how people and places have changed so dramatically? Notice the changes in you over time. Begin to investigate ways to realign your passion and purpose to reach your goals. Life is about change;  knowing who and where you are in life will assist you to move in a new direction.

You have the power to change

If you allow other people’s stories to define who you are, it is time to take responsibility for who you are. Embrace who you are, own your choices and begin to make proactive decisions and adjustments to reach your goals.

We all have different wants and needs. Some people have a strong desire to invest in their future. Others want to live exuberantly at the moment. We all have unique emotional reactions regarding our present situation. When we feel pain or guilt, are scared and ashamed of our actions, it is a sign to do somethingdifferent. Use this pent-up power to make a mental change; drawing from this mindset results in astounding physical changes.

Fake it until you become it!

I want to share this video of Amy Cuddy speaking about powerful change, on both an emotional and physical level. If you have ever felt inadequate or that you are a “fake” – and it’s just a matter of time before “everyone” finds out, watch this clip! It is life changing! In addition to focusing on a new shift in perspective, Amy shares scientific evidence that simple changes in your body language can effect other people’s opinions about you and enhance your success! It certainly affected me, and I hope you will also find it valuable.

Video: Don’t Fake it ‘till you make it; Fake it until You Become it!

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CREATE SPACE FOR NEW BELIEFS

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We have all unconsciously downloaded misinformation into our brains. We now have to consciously begin identifying our early money programming memories based on our family, early childhood and how we were raised. It will take some work to identify and change those beliefs.

By finding and following The Money Nerve, you have already started the process of self-discovery. The more I’ve learned about myself, the more I’ve understood the impact that even the most seemingly insignificant events have had on my life and that probably rings true for you as well.

Before you start any journey, you need to know where you want to go (your goal), what you have to work with (your beliefs), and what new things you will bring (your new perspective).

It’s important to bring your story to consciousness so that you begin to take responsibility for where you are. This, in turn, helps you make clearer choices that will take you where you WANT to go—and allows you to realize your own power.

Explore some of your old habits and see if those actions are still serving you. If they hold you back, it is time to clean out any financial and emotional “trash” and move forward. Once you are aware of where you sabotage yourself financially, you can begin to change your automatic responses. Be more present and listen carefully to the words you are using. As you start to consciously hear yourself creating roadblocks, choose to intentionally reroute your mind toward the fresh course of action that you have set for yourself.

Start by setting aside time to think, reflect and write down your thoughts, present and future. Spending time by yourself gives you the ability to hear your own voice and discover your dreams. Einstein said, “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

With a certain amount of quiet time, you start to listen with the ears behind your ears. You may hear voices saying, “Only special people do that,” “I don’t deserve it”— and the voices may not be your own. It will sound like you are saying it, but if you are like me, you might hear your parents telling you that you are not capable. Tell those voices to be quiet; you are busy. And then go back and pay attention to your own voice.

Are you ready to take action? If you hate your job, find your passion and work in that field. If you don’t have skills, take classes. If you hate being broke, start saving. If you are unhappy with your debt, make a plan to pay it down while curbing spending.

What is working for you and what isn’t? Are you ready to start creating your financial freedom even if the process is scary? Now you can begin to head in a new direction.

Invest in Value for Long Term Sustainability

The financial quick-fixers have a duct tape mentality, and contrary to popular belief, duct tape doesn’t fix everything. They may get immediate results, but are not actually dealing with the cause of their problem.

If you are overdrawn in your bank account, you might think you are doing right by using your credit card to bring your account back into balance. That is robbing Peter to pay Paul. The reality is that you are creating more debt for yourself and adding interest payments to what you owe already.

I joke that I wish I could “un-know” what I know. It is a lot more work when you start to take responsibility for your life. Imagine going to a seminar and hearing that there are eight steps you have to take in order to become a millionaire. Many people in the seminar will stop at four steps and say, “I’ve finished four steps, why don’t I have 500,000 dollars?”

We live in a volatile world. Instead of being a financial quick-fixer, take a longer view into the future and begin to make choices will create a healthy and abundant lifestyle over time.

  • Figure out where you are: Take a look at your spending habits and write down every purchase in a month.
  • Identify your priorities: How can you reallocate funds to support your priorities and provide additional value in your life?
  • Create a financial support system: Actively seek support utilizing professional advice, friends, financial tools, software and applications to set yourself up for success.

Once you learn to work with your list of financial goals and stop operating out of fear regarding money, you will see your efforts transfer to other aspects of your life. You may feel more financially confident once you have a clear vision of where you are and where you want to be.

Empowering yourself financially allows you to toss out old reactions and habits. You choose your actions! As you tap into your own power, you no longer wait for luck to happen or hope that you win the lottery—you actively take charge of your life. I call this positive lifestyle where the riches of life are inherent in your soul—proactive abundance!

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FIND YOUR PASSION, PURPOSE & POWER

3x3 Power PoseDo you always accept circumstances as they appear to be or do you question what comes your way? When taking everything at face value without asking questions and exploring a better or different option, many doors may remain shut. By opening yourself to others, investigating new ideas, finding new ways to tackle a challenge and visualizing a different perspective, you can make changes in the way you handle decisions.

If you want to make a change, but are not sure what the step is, here are some thoughtful solutions for beginning a new journey of personal assessment and growth.

 

How do you begin exploring personal and financial growth?
· What are your strengths?
· Is your internal view of yourself realistic?
· Do your values align with your goals?
· Are there mental/ emotional barriers that need overcoming to be successful?
· What do you need to take the next step?

Examine your story and ask questions. Does this story (well worn and comfortable) still fit your life? If not, how do you take stock of the past and re-frame that internal vision of yourself?

Reflect on these questions below to determine where you are:
Who are you?
What are your values?
What are you passions?
What is your purpose?

Have you ever browsed through old photos and marveled how people and places have changed so dramatically? Notice the changes in you over time and investigate ways to realign your passion and purpose to reach your goals. Life is about change and knowing who and where you are in life, assists you to move forward in a new direction.
Maybe you allow other people’s stories to define who you are, and it is time to take responsibility for you are. Embrace who you are, own your choices and begin to make proactive decisions and adjustments to reach your goals.

We all have different wants and needs. Some people have a strong desire to invest in their future. Others want to live exuberantly at the moment. We all have distinct levels of emotional tolerance toward our present situation. When we feel pain or guilt, are scared and ashamed of our actions, those negative emotions are a sign that change might be a powerful step into a more positive, meaningful future.

I want to share this video of Amy Cuddy speaking about change, on both an emotional and physical level. If you have ever felt inadequate or that you are a “fake” and it’s just a matter of time before “everyone” finds out, this clip may be life changing for you! In addition to mentally focusing on a new goal, Amy shares scientific evidence that simple changes in your body language can effect other people’s opinions about you and enhance your success! It certainly affected me, and I hope you will also find it valuable.

Video: Don’t Fake it ‘till you make it; Fake it until You Become it!

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Visualize Abundance

Visualize success. Professor of Psychology Dr. Robert Rosenthal has studied the effect of self-fulfilling prophecies for more than 50 years, researching nonverbal responses between people, studying behaviors that change based on how teachers view students, and documenting lab animals rising to researcher’s expectations.

His findings? An encouraging attitude can cause people to rise up to another person’s higher level of expectation.

Let’s apply that on a personal level. How often do we create negative expectations in our mind – then when things go exactly as we feared, we feel validated that we were right? For example, imagine you are walking along a sidewalk and a group of teenage boys approaches you. The four young men are laughing and talking, but you feel they will ignore you and force you to step off the sidewalk as they pass by. And they probably will – based on your expectation and body cues. On the other hand, you may decide to greet them and smile, expecting they will shift to one side of the sidewalk, and again, you are right – it’s a friendly encounter as you pass by.

If visualizing a scenario in advance can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, let’s start using positive visualization to make our lives more abundant each and every day!

Buddha stated more than 2500 years ago: “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.”

Set your intentions and visualize your future by writing down and verbalizing daily affirmations like, “I deserve the abundance in life,” or “Today I will be open to new possibilities and take action.” By creating a state of spiritual abundance, you open yourself up to the generous flow of life and embrace all possibilities that come your way.

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Let go of past mistakes or bad habits and visualize your goals. Now you can move forward, making conscious choices that result in positive actions. Believe in yourself.  This fresh approach to making decisions will benefit your financial choices as well. Your goal is set and daily consistent actions will result in better money management with a higher level of financial peace.

Stay Mindful!

Bob

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LIVE AN ABUNDANT LIFE

Living an abundant life is about making thoughtful choices to increase the inner wealth of everyday living. It is a life based on a positive attitude, being aware of the abundance in the world and making decisions based on the best long-term outcomes.

To begin the journey toward financial freedom, set your goals with a strong focus on empowering your life.

Keeping your focus on these life-goals will assist you in creating a healthy relationship with your money. Being rich is not a destination!

One of the ways to see the abundance in your life is to be present and mindful of what is going on around you. Studies have shown that you can change your life for the better with one simple new habit: begin a daily journal to write down what you notice, what makes you happy, what you are grateful for, and where you see yourself tomorrow.

In fact, a research study at Duke University studied whether the power of writing – and then rewriting – your personal story can lead to behavioral changes and improve happiness.

The concept is based on the idea that we all have a personal narrative that shapes our view of the world and ourselves. But sometimes our inner voice doesn’t get it completely right. Some researchers believe that by writing and then editing our own stories, we can change our perceptions of ourselves and identify obstacles that stand in the way of better health. ~ New York Times: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/19/writing-your-way-to-happiness/?_r=0

Your life journey may be comprised of six, eight, or ten stages, with many steps in between – and the possibilities are not always visible. People sometimes make judgments based on a snapshot of life (their own or someone else’s) without taking into consideration past history or potential for the future.

Finances and money decisions will always be a part of your life. It is part of the journey, with multiple paths and a constantly evolving landscape. It is not realistic to think you can learn a new financial skill one time and then be done with those pesky decisions. Rehashing old mistakes, letting emotional baggage dictate your actions or feeling financially lost are all the symptoms of a pinched money nerve.

Visualize the things that truly matter. This will be the basis for your financial decisions. Your goals will now predetermine how YOU will manage your money, creating financial freedom!

Begin your walk toward proactive abundance today. – Bob

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WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME?

Most people are familiar with the phrase, “What’s in it for me?” And many may think it is the cry of a selfish or immature person. This phrase can be a valuable stepping-stone to determine where you stand financially, and an effective process to review your goals! Cost-benefit analysis weighs the total expected costs against the total expected benefits of your actions, in order to choose the most beneficial option.

Many people think of cost benefit analysis as something large corporations do annually for their board and stockholders. It is also a great tool for you to weigh your personal financial choices. It is important to take out the emotional responses and express all benefits and costs in monetary terms.

There are some people who regularly deny themselves life’s pleasures; typically they come from a generation that has experienced hardship. Saving is very important, but taken to an extreme, even saving can be harmful. An extreme saver risks losing the joy of living today by planning for a future that never comes.

Current American culture, on the other hand, teaches that all desires can be met with a credit card. We live for the moment. Not only do we neglect to think about the future, but we also sacrifice future stability for instant gratification. It is important to find a balance between saving and spending.

***Spoiler Alert*** You are going to have to budget to see this in action!

For example, you may say, “I really need a vacation in Hawaii. It’s going to help me relax and feel less stressed.” If you charge a package trip to Hawaii now, are you willing to give up some weekly luxuries and put 200 dollars monthly toward the credit card until it’s paid off?

If you can commit to that plan, take the vacation and keep your promise to yourself! Since there are no physical reminders to make the payments, you need to be disciplined enough to follow through with your budgeting choices.

Now you’ve made a conscientious choice. Either way – Hawaii or a “stay-cation” – you set your parameters ahead of time and empowered yourself financially. When you tap into your own financial power, you no longer wait for a lucky break or hope that you win the lottery – you are actively taking charge of your life. What a great way to end the day!

Bob

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Choose Your Direction

3x3 You Hold the Power

It is easy to fall into a rut and live your life with the same thoughts repeatedly circling in your brain, mindlessly traveling through life without thinking about what you are saying. Maybe it is time to explore whether your words and actions regarding your finances still ring true.

Are you comfortable with the old story you tell – or is it time to intentionally listen, analyze and make changes in your vocabulary?

You may say, “I’m broke; I never seem to get ahead.”

Maybe you can investigate a new way of thinking and begin to say, “I’m broke; I wonder why I always feel that way.”

Without blaming yourself, you can possibly change the intent by stating what is really happening with your decisions. One option is a statement like this: “I’m broke because I chose not to save any money this week.”

This gives you the opportunity to be curious, note your actions and think about what other choices you’d prefer to make. Hmm….”I am curious to see how and where I am spending my money. I’d like to find ways to shift some of my dollars this week toward my dreams.”

So instead of repeating, “I’m broke”…

How about: “I am going to make positive choices with my money. I want to consciously decide where I want my income to go, instead of drifting with old habits and being unhappy at the end of the month.”

Take back your power to choose. Envision what you want to spend your money on and state how you might make some changes.

For example, if you like having nice clothes and the trendiest shoes, but have no money in the bank and are ready to make a change – you can begin to choose a new way of talking to yourself.

Try this on for size: “I want nice clothes and I want money in the bank. I will choose to wait and buy the shoes when they go on sale and will put the difference in price in the bank.” Or maybe you decide, “I like nice clothes and I have trouble telling myself no, so I will put $25 in the bank each week before I go to the mall!”

Now you are choosing to say “yes!”

Yes to change.

Yes to new possibilities

Yes to conscious choices! That’s a great way to be “stepping-out!”

May you bring conscious change to your life this week-

Bob