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3 Tips for Overcoming Emotional Roadblocks

Financial Roadblocks
Negative vs. Positive: How to create positive financial decisions when plagued by negative emotional experiences regarding money.

Negative actions, words, or lifestyles have a more significant impact on your brain than the same number of positive interactions. Why is this? Being criticized, rebuked, or corrected in a spiteful or consistent manner can demoralize us. And we often allow those old, but powerful words to autocorrect ourselves again and again – resulting in repetitious and unsuccessful outcomes.

Emotional baggage can derail our financial goals and visions too! Dealing with money is going to be part of your life tomorrow, next weekend, on your vacation, and even on your birthday. Facing your emotions regarding finances is the first step. There is no physical harm in facing your financial reality. No one yet – has ever been stabbed by a bank account!

Emotions can cause us to feel panicked, afraid to make decisions, to plan for the future, to ignore our problems, and take away the freedom of conscious choice. When we are worried about the heights to which we can ascend, it often feels more comfortable to lower our expectations quietly. So how can we change this emotionally charged way of thinking into a more rational and proactive method of moving forward?

First, examine which negative voices or memories are affecting your finances today. Determine how these negative fears or choices are affecting your personal life. Explore who might be a financial champion (coach or teacher) to assist you in making changes.

Second, write down a logical plan of action to follow. Assess where you are financially right now! You can’t get to your ultimate destination if you don’t know your starting point. Take a good, hard look at your income, expenses, budgeting, time, and hidden costs. See where your money flows into your life and then out. This action plan is not a time for self-judgment; it is just a tally of the financial “flow.”

Third, begin writing in a journal daily. Protect your dreams. Choose a short-term, mid-term, and one long-term goal. Life is full of extraordinary opportunities, and writing down your most profound thoughts, and goals can propel you more quickly into seeing those dreams become a reality.

These three tips can reroute your financial journey and create a healthier relationship with your money!

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Become More Aware with Daily Journaling

Daily Journaling

Setting aside a few minutes for daily journaling each morning or at the end of the day creates a greater awareness of your actions, and what changes you would like to make. You may have noticed that you have an emotional response when dealing with your finances. As you define your “Money Nerve” and begin to see what makes you uncomfortable, quiet reflection each day provides you a powerful tool to become more proactive with your decisions.

This process of self-discovery is not easy. If it were, everyone would be debt free and have enough money in the bank to live comfortably. Facing your Money Nerve can be stressful and frightening. Let’s say at this point, you are fearful and not yet taking steps to make your life better. Are you willing to experience the fear and still push through it? Most people go toward change kicking and screaming. They may think there is less risk when they box themselves up and resist change. The environment around us is changing so quickly that adaptation is a necessity. Those who are willing to make changes by being honest and facing their emotions are the people who are moving toward success.

Taking an emotional inventory at the moment is the first step. This self-reflection helps you become aware of how you feel when you make financial decisions. If you are having difficulty figuring out how your Money Nerve affects your finances, use daily journaling to think back to moments during the day when you had to make a financial decision. Choosing to buy coffee for a friend or waiting to make a credit card payment may have triggered your Money Nerve. Ideally, you’ll start to note your emotions at the end of every day, as part of your mental mapping and reflection. Tips for starting a daily journal.

If it is hard for you to carve out time, try this strategy: When a client or friend is 15 minutes late or cancels their time with you, see that moment as “extra time” and use it to meditate or find a calm spot in your day. You can simply enjoy the quiet or jot down notes on how the day is going, and what you would like to see happen — by the end of the day. Are you making daily decisions based on fear or are you proactively forming decisions that can be accomplished with small conscious choices each day?

Be aware and make time to address the change you want to see in your life. Become responsible for your life, your finances, and your mental attitude. You are now making a choice to create change – now is a good time to purchase blank paper to reshape your life dreams with daily journaling! Want to learn more about easing your Money Nerve?  You can receive a monthly newsletter with helpful tips and motivational guidelines to find your financial freedom.

Time to sharpen your pencil!

Bob